Stop Discounting Your God-Given Gifts Because They Feel Natural

There’s a question I often ask women in coaching that stops them in their tracks:

“What comes easily to you?”

Not what you’ve worked hardest for.
Not what you’ve forced yourself to get good at.
Not what drains you but earns praise.

What comes naturally.

The answers are usually quiet at first.

“I don’t know…”
“Well, people always come to me when…”
“It’s nothing special, but I tend to…”

And that’s where it gets interesting.

Why We Discount Our Natural Gifts

Many women minimize what comes easily because it doesn’t feel earned.

If it doesn’t cost effort…
If it doesn’t require strain…
If it doesn’t come with exhaustion attached…

We assume it must not be valuable.

But Scripture tells a different story.

But Scripture tells a different story.
God doesn’t design gifts randomly (1 Corinthians 12:4–7).
He doesn’t wire people accidentally — we are His workmanship, created with intention (Psalm 139:13–14; Ephesians 2:10).
And He doesn’t call us into lives of constant depletion to be faithful. Again and again, Scripture ties obedience to rest, renewal, and sustainability (Matthew 11:28–30; Psalm 23:2–3; Mark 6:31).

What feels effortless to you may feel life-changing to someone else.

Effortless Doesn’t Mean Insignificant

Think about it:

• The woman who listens deeply without trying

• The one who brings calm into chaotic rooms

• The organizer who sees patterns others miss

• The encourager who knows exactly what to say

• The leader who empowers without controlling

These gifts often feel “normal” to the person carrying them — but they are not common.

They are clues.

Clues to how you were designed to show up in the world.

The Other Side of Gifting: Receiving

Here’s the piece many women overlook:

Our ability to give is directly connected to our ability to receive.

If you struggle to receive help, rest, affirmation, or guidance…
Your giving eventually becomes strained.

You keep showing up — but from an empty place.
You serve — but without joy.
You lead — but with pressure instead of peace.

Receiving is not weakness.
Receiving is humility.
Receiving is trust.
Receiving is saying, “I don’t have to do this alone.”

And for many women, that is the bravest step of all.

Why This Matters as You Look Toward a New Year

As this year winds down, many women feel a pull toward something more — but can’t quite name it.

They sense there’s a next chapter.
A deeper alignment.
A different pace.

But they don’t know how to begin.

Here’s where I’d start:

• What gifts have you been underestimating?

• Where have you been over-functioning instead of receiving support?

• What would it look like to build a year that honors how you’re actually wired?

These questions don’t lead to hustle.
They lead to alignment.

A Gentle Invitation

If you’re craving clarity about your gifts, direction for the year ahead, and a way forward that doesn’t require burnout, I’d love to invite you to a live workshop I’m hosting:

✨ Design Your Year
A goal workshop for women who want 2026 to feel different.

We’ll explore identity, gifting, and practical next steps — together.

And if nothing else, let this be your reminder:

What comes easily to you matters.
And you don’t have to earn the right to receive support.